Even if at all they will, very few girls will openly admit
that they do it for the money. The majority will quickly rebut with colorful
reasons why they won’t look out for the money in choosing a partner. They would
even opt to give a two-hour unsolicited lecture on the dangers of using money
as the standard of choosing a life partner. Vocal as they are in driving home
their point, they will use personality profile illustrations, both biblical and
historical allusions and weave it all up with an impeccable grammar making you
lose sight of the fact that they are playing mere drama.
I have encountered and interacted with variety of ladies at
varied levels. Though these ladies differ in terms of age, class, tribe, nationality,
religion and in their individual being, they seem to have almost the same
opinion. In one of my media and society lectures last semester, the lecturer
asked the wonderful congregation of ladies in my class what they look out for
in a man before considering him for a life partner. As if the question had
leaked a day before the start of the class and as though they had debated the
same topic the previous night and have come to a right consensus, their
well-rehearsed responses were almost an halleluiah chorus; “I do not mind if
the guy has money or not, all I need is that he should be able to take good
care of me”. “What exactly do you mean
when you say he should be able to take good care of you?” the lecturer
interjected. I would have personally broken the rules in the class to seek
clarification if the lecturer failed to ask the follow up question but he did. One
after the other the ladies started mentioning the various components of what
they meant by “taking good care of me”. He should always be there for me
anytime I need him, he should always call me to check on me, he should pay
regular visits, he should take me out occasionally, he should have a good character,
he should make me feel comfortable, he should have big dreams among others were
some of the responses that came from various angles of the class. Apparently,
the rest of the class was satisfied with their responses but for me, P D Wedam,
I refuse to allow them throw dust into my eyes and here are my reasons. For me,
no matter how you look at it, the money is the determining factor and all the
responses indirectly hinge on the money. What do you make of these?
My dear ladies,
You want him to spend much of his time with you, knowing
fully well that TIME IS MONEY yet
you have the guts to say, ‘I don’t care about the money’? Something must be
wrong with you.
You say you don’t necessarily need a guy with money but you
only need a guy with big dreams knowing very well that EVERY DREAM HAS A PRICE TO PAY. Are you not aware that the bigger
the dreams you want him to have directly correspond to the price you want him
to pay?
If indeed you do not
care about the money, why then do you insists that your boyfriend CALLS YOU THREE TIMES EACH DAY just to
check on you? Don’t you know the airtime costs money? Don’t raise your eye
brows in objection because we know you too well. The fact is, boys call their
girlfriends to check on them but girls only call their boyfriends to find out
why they have not called. Undisputed!!
part 2
You say the money does not matter, you only need a happy
partner but you have so soon forgotten that it’s food that determines the mood
of man and manna only fell from heaven just once in man’s history. Thereafter we fed ourselves by buying and
selling and I guess you what that means. Or should I still tell you that food
is bought?
You know very well that comfort comes at a high cost yet you claim
it is not because of the money but the comfort. Don’t we all know how uncomfortable
life is without money, so what then is your point if you say that the money
doesn’t matter? Perhaps you need some education.
You say you don’t care about the money yet you just broke up
with your ex-boyfriend because he did not BUY
A PRESENT FOR YOU ON YOUR BIRTHDAY. I guess you were expecting him to
present himself as a present to you? And now, you just gave in to the guy next
in the waiting line only after he took you out to have fun on Valentine’s Day
but you still have convinced yourself you are not interested in the money.
You said he disgraced you for showing up at your friend’s
birthday party in fairly worn-out old-fashioned clothes. What were you thinking,
that your boyfriend is a regular benefactor of that charity foundation that
gives fashion aids? I wish there was one like that!
If you really don’t care about the money then why did you
turn that guy’s proposal down because he has bushy hair, has bad breath and has
body odour? Don’t you see that detergents, cosmetics, razors and sanitizers are
displayed in shelves of shops with price tags?
Your ex-boyfriend did not roll in the hay (have sex) with you
because you argued that it was improper
to do it in the room he shares with his younger brothers. You claim it is unsafe to do it at a friend’s place
either, and you ceaselessly promise him that you’ll gladly let him in when he
gets his own place. Do you need to be told that the country in which you live
does not have a free housing policy before you begin to realize it costs a lot
of money to own a personal room? And now that he has thrown in the towel out of
impatience, it has suddenly become proper
and safe for you to be screwed in
hotels. Do you know the number of people who share that hotel room and bed?
So next time you admire that guy, no! not that guy, I mean
next time you admire me for my looks, character, attitude, brains or whatever
it is that attracts you, remember I did not acquire all that by chance; so much
investment went into it and it’s obviously not stones but money.
And next time a girl tells you she does not care about the money,
pause a moment and think about those who love broth and hate meat. Think about
those who love to dream but hate to sleep. Think of the courts that sentence
60-year old criminals to 90 years imprisonment and still ask them to be
grateful because it could have been life sentence. Think about the pastor who
preaches a promising paradise yet he prays for long life or better still, think
of those who want to go to heaven but fear to die and you would understand the
ladies better.
I do not intend to initiate a global inter-sex debate, all
that I am saying is that, in this day and age nobody ever survives without
money. It therefore stands to reason that MONEY
IS LIFE, even though to some extent money
cannot buy life. But it can buy all the "buyable" things you ladies look out
for in your ideal men. #Myleakedthought#2014
#spoken word version under construction#
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